"We develop valuable life-long Team Skills together."
Then go for it!
Setting out in this direction is High Level Fun, and there is so much to learn!
You could start by having a Team meeting to practice each of the following skills:
(these are almost 2 years worth of Team meetings)
EXPERIMENT PROCEDURE: Start each Team Meeting by going to the first website below, and then:
Read some of that website contents out loud together. (Do not assume anyone can already do this. Knowing something is VERY different from being able to do it now. In school we were taught to KNOW. Here we practice CREATING in real life.)
Figure out one or more Experiments to do now for practicing these new skills at your Team meeting.
Divide into groups of 3 (a Practitioner, a Client, and a Coach who gives Beep! Shift! Go! feedback to the Practitioner).
Ask someone to be Timekeeper, and time about 15 minutes to practice developing the skills with real-time Feedback and Coaching from the Coach.
After the 15 minutes, ask each group of 3 to come to a stop and rotate roles until each person has the chance to practice all 3 roles for 15 minutes.
Come back together in one whole Team for sharing about what you learned.
Discuss specific examples of where and how to apply these skills in everyday life.
Consider further refinement and practices to practice in everyday life during the week.
Meet again next week and go to the next website in the list below.
Meet With Your Team To Practice Using Your Jakobs Ladder
Meet With Your Team To Practice Using Your Wand Of Declaration
Extra Credit Experiment
Meet With Your Team To Replace Your Lone-Wolf Thoughtware
Matrix Code YOURTEA1.04
Western culture is far removed from indigenous village culture. We are given nearly NO access to how to connect in and collaborate with a field of villages. Yet we have such a longing to belong to a tribe.
Co-creating the co-intelligent collaborations in a next culture Tribe as a Spaceholder is as different from being a Lone Wolf Leader, as being a Lone Wolf Leader is different from being a communal-intelligence villager.
Learning Spaceholder skills is undeniably terrifying to a Lone Wolf. All we know are role models of 'leaders' (The concept of 'Leadership' automatically enforces the concept of 'Followership': one master many slaves, one winner many losers.)
There is the fear of losing 'anonymity', the fear of losing personal (Box and Gremlin) 'freedom of choice', the fear of having to Negotiate Intimacies in a group or the fear of 'being naive and stupid, and falling victim to being fooled into joining a sect.
How can you say what you need, or be accountable to your Tribe, if you do not even know how to feel or communicate? There are so many new territories both inside us and outside of us to explore, and so many potentials to unfold. Yet the benefits of becoming a member of a Tribe - especially a small Tribe that you help to invent from scratch - are so valuable that engaging the Learning Spiral and engaging Go! Beep! Shift! Go! learning are worth the tribulations, even if you might feel confused or embarrassed along the way. Inventing archearchy - we are all in this together.
This Experiment is to meet online or offline with a friend for about an hour for a private conversation. Ask them if they are willing to have a confidential conversation with you, to not tell anyone about what you will say. If they say, "Yes," and you believe them, ask them to hold a safe space for you. Shut your eyes, and let them hear from you about your secret pains of being a Lone Wolf in one way or another.
Start your sentences with phrases such as:
I never really thought about the price I pay to be a Lone Wolf.
I have so many secrets.
I have secrets about my inner life. Nobody actually knows that I:
did this ___________.
can't do this ____________.
feel this _________ about this ___________.
I do this _____________ when I am alone.
I hide these things from others __________.
I lie about this ___________.
I long for _________ and I have no idea how to create it.
I have failed to create this ________ over and over.
I hate myself because __________.
I hate life because __________.
this ______ embarrasses me because __________.
Ask your friend to repeat back what they heard you say so you know they heard you. Notice that they are not judging you, and that they did not leave you. They listened. They can probably even relate personally to much of what you shared.
By doing this Experiment you end your life as a Lone Wolf and begin your life as you, possibly as an Edgeworker.
Thank you for doing this Experiment. There are many possible new identities for you to explore now beyond the Lone Wolf.